Monday, January 21, 2008

Listening builds relationships

Last night, I went to mass with my mom. Luckily, si Fr. Robleza. He delivered another wonderful and inspiring homily. :)

He started with a story about the missionaries he encountered during a convention. He said that the missionaries there has thier own signal for the numbers 1-5. They use addition of colors, example:
red + green = 1
blue + pink + yellow = 5
gray+ yellow orange + brown = 3

It really doesn't matter how many the color combination was, it's the answer that matters the most. It's like their way of coding it. So, Fr. Armand tested us if we could decode it. He gave us several color combination and yet we still don't know how to it works. Sabi tuloy ni father, "Ano ba yan 'di nyo pa rin gets?" Wah! "Bakit hindi ko pa rin ma-gets?"

So he gave us a hint saying, these missionaries uses a certain body language to decode the answer.. So father tested us again.

Father: green + blue = ? (we noticed that he uses his fingers to symbolize the number)
All: 2!
Father: black + baby pink + metallic green = ?
All: 5!

Haha! I didn't notice that.. So he said "Kita nyo na.. Kung hindi pa ako nag-hint 'di nyo pa mage-gets." Haha! So he explained why we didn't decode the answer easily.

Expert says, people delivers 7% content, 38% feelings and 55% body language...
**or something like that.

Listen to one another, and you could gain trust. Kaya nga nung bata tayo, anong madalas sabihin ng mga magulang natin? "Makining ka, anak." If we commit mistake, what will our parents say? "Ikaw kasi hindi ka nakinig sa akin/amin."

We listen through our hearts. Listen with your spirit. Listening builds relationships.

Happy people knows how to listen. Angry people don't want to listen. Mahirap makinig kung 'di ka makikinig. Kung galit ka sa isang tao, di'ba ayaw mong pakinggan mga sinasabi nya?


In listening, a person should be:
1. Humble
2. Caring
3. Patient

You listen to an individual because you trust her/him.

When we listen to one another, we can easily hear Him in our lives. :)

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